Adoption in China

Adoption, Nanning appears to be a popular choice for adopting.
One explanation might be that as the capital of Guangxi, a mainly rural area, it is best placed for visiting adopters of Chinese children as Guangxi Autonomous Region has many orphanages.

An interesting conversation recently with one such visiting adopting American couple, enlightened me in respect of certain issues faced by the, in my opinion, very special adopting people.

From China with Love: A Long Road to Motherhood by Emily Buchanan is a must read for any Adopter and most certainly for those considering adoption. (Link on the right)"...extraordinarily brave and honest, and written with great clarity. I can’t remember reading anything on the subject that was as open,...or done with as much dignity...neither of us could put it down, and we were both very moved by it."—John Simpson, BBC World Affairs Editor.

Apparently China limits the number of children available each year for adoption to foreigners.
A huge amount of paperwork is required to complete and be accepted in their home country before any Chinese child can be adopted and taken back, not to mention, paperwork the Chinese end.

I had wondered why in most cases the adopters come over in groups, many couples together. So far, I have no clear cut answer to this. It could be just to keep costs to a minimum.
Some visiting adopters do not know which child they are going to adopt and are here to 'select'.

I am slightly bewildered when it comes to adoption. It is something that fits uneasily into my mindset having no experiences in the subject to base my thoughts on.
But I admire those that adopt, kind, generous and caring people.

It strikes me as somewhat unfair when I heard of the selection procedures these adopters face in their own countries.
To do it following official channels must be an arduous task and it is this that appears a tad contradictory.
Not on the child that is waiting to be adopted, as all possible avenues need exploring to ensure suitability. I can understand that.

No, it is the 'marriage to parenting' route that causes me some concern, those that marry and automatically find themselves acting as parent to a child. With many Nanning to Westerner marriages acting as a catalyst.
In one case I know of, the new husband has never fathered or parented a child before.
No form filling, no vetting, no checks, no waiting, no procedures to protect the innocent.
Are they suitable? - No one appears to care... Mmmm…It's a strange, sometimes illogical world we live in.
But then, I suppose it's the same for any new biological parent.


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